I do it all the time.
I am a generally happy person. Sure things will annoy, aggravate, or drive me crazy from time-to-time, each and every day, but my underlying foundation is happiness and gratitude.
I really believe that one of the reasons why, are my internal pep talks.
Do you do it too?
Sometimes baking in an apron just makes me feel peace.
Simple things run through my mind all day...
- Yes, kids are in their classes on time!
- I have made lunch every day of this school year, they haven't had a single school lunch - go me!
- I feel energized running to and from my car, and it's faster.
- Today, I did four loads of laundry. I will fold them tomorrow.
- I spent hours helping the kids with homework, and I made dinner, I can't wait for some quiet TV time.
- This skirt I had from before kids is fitting loosely, yahoo!
- I learned a new thing today listening to NPR. So cool.
- I helped ---- today, and it felt awesome.
- Look at me making beds and taking names.
- I can't wait for the girls to see what I did, when they get home.
- I cleaned the bathroom today.
Simple stuff. All day long I talk to myself. I pump myself up. If I walk past a mirror on my way to the bathroom, I say in my head, "looking good today." The constant positive reinforcement, and focus on the good, totally lifts my spirit, and feeds my soul. When I focus on things that I am grateful for, that I've done, or am doing, it's like I'm storing up all this good stuff, so that I forget about the nit-picky, negative things.
I've always believed that if we want to be successful in life, we surround ourselves with people, ideas, images, and things that enrich us, inspire us, and encourage us to be better. Things that drag us down, or fuel negative, corrosive attitudes and behavior need to be discarded.
Same with our minds, we need to fill our minds with encouragement. We are our harshest critics. Yes, that irritating critic in my head likes to escape out of my maze of happy and say mean things to me too, but I just knock it back with more cheers for the little, simple things I do each day.
I'm grateful for my body. When I walk upstairs I often think "wow, I'm so lucky that my body can move so easily. My knees still work!" When my body hits the 4pm wall, I think, "dang girl, you do this all day, every day without any caffeine, that's awesome." When I collapse into bed in the evening, I think "Whoo hoo, you really went to town on your day and conquered."
I work hard not to think about how if I could lose just three more inches off my waist I'd be back to my waist size in college. It's difficult, but the gratitude talk I give myself helps to keep it at bay. I work hard to not crawl into my bed in the afternoon because I'm exhausted, and instead focus on how I do all the things for my kids, and people without any stimulants. I work hard not to think about the other half of my "to-do" lists I haven't finished at night, so that I can relax and revel in all the things I did do.
Key here is not comparing myself to others. Comparison is a rotten, scoundrel who likes to steal happiness. I have no time for those ridiculous antics. None. Also, I hate inefficiency, and comparison, jealousy, envy are utterly worthless. I set my own standards, my own goals, my own little happy things. I don't worry about other people's standards, those standards are theirs, and we each deserve to choose our own path. So, if you're going to pep talk yourself - don't worry about what other people do, it's none of our business. We are too busy living our own life and coaching ourselves, yo!
When it comes down to it, our minds are incredibly powerful. We choose how we use that power. We can reprogram the way we look at the world ourselves. Simple pep talks, that constant internal dialogue can help us to be happy, grateful people. Our brains are CRAZY, powerful. We are in charge. So take the reigns and giddy up.
Then again, don't take my word for it, try it yourself.